sabrina sikora of TheFirstWife.com by Martice Milton
sabrina sikora of TheFirstWife.com by Martice Milton

sabrina sikora of TheFirstWife.com by Martice Milton

It has been a long time since I have gathered around a table with my family back home and given thanks on this day. This holiday has been spent in Hong Kong for most of my years here due to the fact that I travel back for Christmas. Here in HK we have celebrated at restaurants, private kitchens, and private clubs but my favorite has to be those shared around my own table. Days prior were spent chopping, and stirring, and checking the conversion between fahrenheit  and celsius so I wouldn’t burn the sides. This was all done to the tune of Christmas music blaring in the background to get me in the holiday mood as you can’t rely on the actual temps outside to do this for you in Hong Kong. Once an obscene amount of butter food was prepped and heated and plated in my best serve ware it was time to offer it to the displaced Americans that we had come to know and love. But we didn’t stop there. A host of non-Americans joined us at this special meal to see what the fuss was all about. It was declared that this was the best holiday of all, no matter your nationality, because it wasn’t about religion or gifts but about the love and friendship shared between us. And gravy. It is about gravy too. And maple bourbon sweet potatoes.

Looking for a good way to give thanks but not embarrass all at the table by going round robin? Have scraps of paper and pens next to a vase at the edge of the room. Ask guests to each scribble down what they are thankful for this year. It can be anything from their friends and fam, to warm chocolate chip cookies, to validated parking. Don’t sign any names but just fold it up and toss it in the vase. The next day when everyone has the warm and fuzzies from the good time had by all send out an email with a list of everyones notes. It’s great to see what shared values the group has as well as the weird and random bits that people are thankful for. We have even gotten “cute baby pigs” written on one of these notes. This year mine would say, “loving family, fabulous friends, FaceTime, business class, and sample sales”. That about sums it up.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Jacket and Dress: ℅ Marks and Spencer; Bag: ℅ Poupee de Papier; Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell ℅ Shopbop; Glasses: ℅ Ports 1961; Ring: ℅ Niin; Bracelet: ℅ Marie France Van Damme; Lips: ℅ Dolce & Gabbana in Dolce Inferno

Hair by Shayne Chandler of Salon Chandler; Photo by Martice Milton at First Wife Studios